“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.” ~ Richard David Bach
My parents are my best friends.
They taught me the power of:
The Joy of Living!
When asked “How did you get to be, You?”
I can think of no prouder answer then… “My Parents!”
As they say… “Biology makes Babies, not parents”
I feel blessed for having experienced both of the above mentioned…
and so much more…
They were always WAY more than “Parents”,
in the biological sense,
“an organism that produces or generates another”,
they were, more accurately,
“a source, origin, or cause”
to creation itself.
For my brother and I,
of who we were, are and will be…
and, “guardians” of a thing called Unconditional Love.
They were not in the business of baby-making for self amusement.
They were not motivated to control, restrict, or ease the realities of…
They simply, Let us Be.
And continue to do so…
They were living-breathing examples,
of the infinite power of Love.
They were not breeding for the sake of breeding,
nor were they confined to stereotypical ideals of “Family”
They set out to create,
a sense of the word “Family”
Unique to who they were as individuals,
and congruent to the bond they had formed,
and life they began, together 31 years ago on this very day.
“Presence is more than just being there” – Malcolm Forbes
They did not discourage but, rather EMBRACED and EXPOSED us to the Beauty of Diversity in the world:
our preferences and/or our changing prerogatives…
They did things their own way and, consistent with the children that we were, did not hide us from the “real world” by distorting reality… instead, they explored it WITH us:
And rather than force obscured interpretations of moral “rights” and “wrongs”, they simply let us expand into adhering to our own definitions of these things and, coincidentally enough, gave room for us to listen more closely to our innate conscience…
My mom didn’t hound me to eat my vegetables, do my homework or make me go to bed at a certain time… instead, she showed me how to love myself and taught me how to dance…
And because of that, I am an adult who loves to eat vegetables, do fulfilling work in the world and am devoted to finding the fine balance between nap and playtime. We were probably never described as “Normal”, and I think we are all just fine with that… We have lived in dozens of apartments all over the country:
They simultaneously supported us in becoming the truest versions of ourselves… with acceptance.
They gave us SPACE TO EXPRESS and pursue our innate Curiosity:
They learned to grow WITH us And devote energy into strengthening our family “unit”:
They simply respected and therefore loved us, as was, and as is… by appreciating WHO WE ARE, as individuals, more than How They thought we “should” or “could” be:
Someone once said: “If your children look up to you, you’ve made a success of life’s biggest job.” Well, what an honor it has been to be your child… after 28 years you’re still my biggest inspirations…
“i carry your heart with me (i carry it in
my heart) i am never without it (anywhere
i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling)
no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet) i want
no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart)” ~e.e. cummings
“Oh we ain’t got a barrel of money
Maybe we’re ragged and funny
But we’ll travel along singin’ our song side by side
Don’t know what’s comin’ tomorrow
Maybe it’s trouble and sorrow
But we’ll travel the road sharin’ our load side by side
Through all kinds of weather
What if the sky should fall?
Just so long as we’re together
It doesn’t matter at all
When they’ve all had their quarrels and parted
We’ll be the same as we started
Just travlin’ along singin’ our song
Side By Side”